Sixteen Lessons from my Homoeopathic Journey
This blog is special because it was written when I completed 16 years of my homoeopathic journey! It is hard to believe… But I actually started all the way back in 1998.
Looking back I’ve come a long way since then – from a very frustrated student just out of medical school who seriously did not believe she could last beyond a few months of her practice to now having impacted thousands of patients over three different continents as well as students and practitioners over 74 different countries through my training videos, Academies, forums and the Homeoquest software...
But more importantly the students in my Academies are helping tens of thousands of patients in different corners of the globe thereby creating these ripples around the world through their healing and homoeopathy.
Having said that I have made hundreds of mistakes and each mistake has encouraged me to look deeper and explore a new perspective, tool or resource that helped my growth further. So every year has taught me something new and every lesson has enriched my life in so many ways. And today I want to take a moment and look back at all these lessons. And I have decided to share my 16 lessons that I have learnt over the past sixteen years of my homoeopathic journey - that have contributed to my growth and success in some way.
These learnings came to me at different times over the years. I was lucky to stumble onto the first two right at the very beginning. The rest were hard-won lessons I learned over the years. So without further ado, here they are:
1.The purpose of the first 10 minutes of every consult is to simply understand what your patient really wants:
Some of my greatest aha moments have come from just asking this simple but powerful question - What do you really want? The beauty is the answer offers a deeper pespective through every followup. And almost always this question has helped me find hidden gems or discover the exact tools to get my patient back on track and propel their healing journey.
2. Always keep track of what stage your patient is at:
This is another one of those things that I somehow instinctively understood from day one. Every patient feels most comfortable expressing at a specific stage. And it's much simple to just take information at where they are at and work from that stage.
This is so critical, and I have seen many experienced practitioners including myself mess this up at times. But even as a beginner, just doing this can really make huge difference to your practice. There is this immediate sync in the room because real connection starts there.
3. It’s not always about verbal information –
Some of the key information I have got from my patients is through non verbal mode. Not every patient can or will communicate effectively in verbal form. And this is not restricted to just objective symptoms. You can find nonverbal information in many other forms - their body structure, gestures, their paintings, their music, their sketch books, their doodles, their books.In short any and every creative pursuit is an expression of the patient's deeper energy. Don't miss this vital data to trace their disturbance..
4. It’s A Lot Easier To Get Information From The Patient when you come from a position of “not knowingness”– The “Conventional Consultation” does not work :
The conventional consultation is focussed on being in a position of “All knowingness” and “All important”. The practitioner is in the driver's seat and has “all” the answers.
This is completely opposite to what we need to be at. You assume the position of “not knowingness” and “wonder” and “curiosity”! The patient is in the driver's seat and has "all" the answers. Your role is to simply make them aware that they actually have the answers...
5. Choose your resources and tools to match the Patient's Stage:
We are trained to use an approach that we learn in school, that we feel comfortable using or we logically believe to be the best. But your patients are not you. And your favourite approach does not always work for everyone. Real learning starts with this awareness.I have written a series of books on this. I would encourage you to read the first book - "When Your Favorite Approach Does Not Work" if you haven't already. You will find a complimentary copy for download on the left side of this page.
6. Don’t Expect Just One Single Remedy to cure every case:
If your strategy is finding that one single simillimum in every case, then you don’t really have a plan. You are simply planning for a lot of frustration, disappointment and heartache. 90% of my successful cases have never received the Simillimum. Your patients do not want the Simillimum. They want the outcome that the Simillimum provides.
So you need to let go of that perfection mode. You need to diversify your tool kit. You need to know how to use partial simillimums effectively in series. You need to strategically use tools and resources at different stages so you can get that outcome with or without the Simillimum.
7. Use Good Followups to get to the next Stage:
The best strategy is is to get to that first good prescription at a stage the patient is at. But this is the start. When a patient starts doing well, its easier to sit back and rest. Fight that urge. It’s a lot easier to do the right things and make the right decisions when you aren’t stressing about the next prescription… Use the good followups to explore the deeper layers. The bits that do not fit!
8. Journey to the Simillimum– :
There are many ways to get to the Simillimum but here is my take on it based on the Stages Concept. If you are able to confirm the same remedy at, minimum three stages, then this is the closest you can get to the so called “Simillimum”. But there are lots of boxes to tick to make this possible. The disease process has to be linear and traced to the same disturbance. The remedy has to be a well proved polycrest. The patient has to be willing and practitioner has to be in sync....
9. Finding homoeopathic remedies isn't everything:
It is wise to remember that there is scope for health and wellbeing even beyond the spectrum of homoeopathic medicines. There are patients who can easily express beyond Stage 4 and may not need “medicine” in any form. In others another form of energy therapeutics can be a more powerful catalyst for their healing. You need to let go of your instinct to prescribe a homoeopathic remedy for every case.
On the other hand there are patients at Stage 1 who will not respond to any potencies. They need high doses of conventional medicine because that is the most appropriate tool for them...
10. Discover your own gifts and purpose:
I work with many new practitioners. They ask me “Will my practice give me a sustained income?” But the fair question is - What are you willing to give your practice? What unique gifts would you bring on to the table? What legacy would you want to leave behind through your work? When you give yourself the permission to discover your innate gifts and offer it to your work, your work will gift you back in abundance.
11. It’s All About Integration and collaboration of two systems:
I dream of a day when conventional and complementary practitioners will work together and join forces in every corner of the globe. That will be a huge milestone for health and healing. Having seen the pros and cons of both systems I sincerely believe in working towards that future. The real future is thinking in terms of “partnership” integration and collaboration...
12. Knowing your limitations is The Most Important Thing (And It Becomes More Important As you grow):
This is relevant as you build your success. The bottom line is there are always more opportunities than there is time. What projects you want to undertake? What opportunities do you want to accept? What type of patients you want to work with? You can only do so much. Choose wisely.
13. Spend time discussing, brainstorming cases with like minded colleagues:
I changed my practice at five different places within the first few years across two different continents. And the only thing that sustained me were my discussion groups with like minded colleagues.
My journey changed radically since I created this global homoeopathic network. That is where I share my ups and down. This is where I find that inspiration to get out of bed each morning. That is where new connections are made with students and patients. And this is where I meet the experts in the field around the world to enrich my journey.
14. The Power Of Mentoring Is Enormous:
I wouldn’t be where I’m at today if I hadn't had mentors at every stage of my journey. Even to this day I am actively engaged in various mentoring groups for my own personal and professional growth. So if you haven't already then find a mentor for the next stage of your journey now.
15. Baby Steps:
This is so important when you are starting. Your first case will fail, that’s OK. Your first remedy will not do anything, that’s OK. Your first patient will refuse to talk, that’s OK. The important thing is to take the next step in your plan... and you keep moving forward. You’ll get there… just get started.
Be gentle with yourself, forgive yourself for mistakes, don’t expect to be perfect – just get moving, and keep putting one foot in front of the other.
16. Invest In Yourself… No One Can Take Your Skills From You:
I spend a lot of time, energy, and money on building my skills and knowledge. I’ve been doing that from the start, and I’m not sure I can ever stop… no one can take that away from me. I’ve been fortunate enough to have long term success… but I’ve also had set backs.
I’ve had to restart my practice from scratch five different times – my entire database of patients disappeared overnight - but it never slowed me down. In fact, it really wasn’t even very troubling, because I knew I had the skills to bounce right back. Once you’ve developed your skills, you have the ultimate control over your destiny and journey.
So there’s my 16 Lessons… I’m not claiming they are all-inclusive, or that they’re a fit for everyone. After all, I only had 16 to work with. But they’ve been working really well for me…
So let me know – what’s your #1 tip for success? What was the one you learned first? Which one was the most painful to learn? What did I forget? Leave a comment below and let me know… I read all of the comments.